Been busy and I haven't been sharing from this awesome book as I read, as I had intended. So I will take a moment to do so now.
"We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature's preferred agent for inspiring change. We have evolved to always live with a certain degree of dissatisfaction and insecurity, because it's the mildly dissatisfied and insecure creature that's going to do the most work to innovate and survive." I could share the rest of the paragraph but I am going to leave you mildly dissatisfied and recommend that you get this book! I think we often dream of having a perfect life, I know I do. But when I think about it, the point here is very valid, If everything was great I wouldn't strive to make things better. In part that sounds like it would be a good thing, it would be great if things were always great, but on the other hand, it would also be awfully boring! And then we'd have to strive to make it not boring!
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A couple more quotes that I wanted to share from what I read yesterday in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." that have been on my mind.
"But when you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice - all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time - is actually fixating on what you lack." "Ironically, this fixation on the positive - on what's better, what's superior - only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be. After all, no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she's happy. She just is." This reminded me of some of what I read in "Throw Away Your Vision Board! by Neil Farber including "Believing you are in control of all facets of your life (including natural phenomena and other people's thoughts and actions) results in lowered self-esteem and excessive self-blame. It decreases the ability to problem-solve, learn from the lack of success, and move toward a better solution." Sure I think it's good to look for the positive in life, in many ways it makes life more enjoyable. But many in the self-help and/or Law of Attraction movement take it MUCH too far and make "everything" that happens in life "your responsibility", so if your life sucks it's your fault, you caused that tornado that destroyed your home and that is clearly wrong. Sometimes life just sucks and sometimes we are victims, not victors, and victims need help, not to be blamed and told it was their fault because they weren't positive enough. And I hate to say this but the reality also is that to enjoy the joys of life we must also have the sorrows, we need the ying and the yang. It's all OK and part of life, even the sucky parts. This morning (Feb 13th 2018) I started reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck. by Mark Manson. Already I have to say that for me it's already the best success/personal development book that I have ever read. That's because I simply give too many f*cks. And this book is not about being indifferent it's more like to really give a f*ck about important stuff you got to let the little sh!t go.
Best quote from my read this morning: (I am editing for Facebook, not because I give a f*ck) "And while there's nothing wrong with good business, the problem is that giving too many f*cks is bad for your mental health. It causes you to become overly attached to the superficial and the fake, to dedicate your life to chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction. The key to a good life is not giving a f*ck about more: it's giving a f*ck about less, giving a f*ck about only what is true and immediate and important." Takeaways for me this morning I have a good business that I have not been working on because I give too much of a f*ck about what others think of the business model, because to do it in a way that best fit's me and my values I need to do it differently than most do it, because parts of the model/culture I also have issues with. But overall it's a great business, one that I know I can do, that I believe in, that helps people, that does good, so I need to stop giving a f*ck about the superficial parts of it and get to it. Thanks to Tonjie Anderson and Brian Van Gundyand a conversation that motivated me to go ahead and get this book. I know you said that you were going to get me a copy, thanks but you were taking too f'n long! LOL, love you both! |
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