A couple more quotes that I wanted to share from what I read yesterday in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." that have been on my mind.
"But when you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice - all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time - is actually fixating on what you lack." "Ironically, this fixation on the positive - on what's better, what's superior - only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be. After all, no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she's happy. She just is." This reminded me of some of what I read in "Throw Away Your Vision Board! by Neil Farber including "Believing you are in control of all facets of your life (including natural phenomena and other people's thoughts and actions) results in lowered self-esteem and excessive self-blame. It decreases the ability to problem-solve, learn from the lack of success, and move toward a better solution." Sure I think it's good to look for the positive in life, in many ways it makes life more enjoyable. But many in the self-help and/or Law of Attraction movement take it MUCH too far and make "everything" that happens in life "your responsibility", so if your life sucks it's your fault, you caused that tornado that destroyed your home and that is clearly wrong. Sometimes life just sucks and sometimes we are victims, not victors, and victims need help, not to be blamed and told it was their fault because they weren't positive enough. And I hate to say this but the reality also is that to enjoy the joys of life we must also have the sorrows, we need the ying and the yang. It's all OK and part of life, even the sucky parts.
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