Yesterday I said at the end of my post that Mark Manson had written that "Staying Positive" is also a shitty value, I totally agree," and then I dropped it. Now I am picking it back up.
It isn't that there isn't any value in positive thinking, of course, there is! It's good to have a positive, hopeful outlook on life, it helps you get through things. But too much of it can be denial and avoidance that keeps you from tackling and solving problems. Here's Mark: "When we force ourselves to stay positive at all times, we deny the existence of our life's problems. And when we deny our problems, we rob ourselves of the chance to solve them and create happiness. Problems add a sense of meaning and importance to our life. Thus to duck our problems is to lead a meaningless (even if supposedly pleasant) existence. Me again: This is something I have been realizing more and more as I move through life. We feel it's joys in contrast to its sadness, happiness in contrast to depression, etc. if we did not have the dark side, we could not have the light side, at least not nearly as fully. I am not saying that we have to have life's worst to have it's best, but we do need something of a contrast or it will all just be blah. And do we really want blah? While paradise, heaven, etc. does sound inviting when you really think about it, not so much. Actually, it is having problems and challenges to solve that really makes life worth living, interesting and yes gives us happiness.
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